Shall I fake an orgasm?
by: Gerson Borges
Usually people would say: you're tired. Besides, he'll never know the difference.
If sex were just a trivial action, then maybe it would be OK. But the thing is, sex is not just a trivial act. During sex, partners are involved in a highly charged, intense act that brings them to come together sensually, emotionally, and spiritually. So, by faking an orgasm, the woman would no only be deceiving her man, but also missing out on the opportunity to help her partner to be more involved and to dedicate himself more to the cause of maintaining the relationship on a high level. After all, her man should know that a woman is not always ready to perform sex and also getting an orgasm. The simple fact that she is willing to have sex with him should tell him how much she cares about him. And she must tell him every time that she doesn't come, that she didn't, explaining that it is absolutely normal that women won't have orgasms every time they have sex. But nevertheless, she had much pleasure and enjoyed it a lot.
It's obvious that many men want their wives to get an orgasm, as they can feel they're great lovers. Actually, the love and warmness demonstrated by her during sex should make him happy. By and large, only 25 percent of women reach orgasm every time they have sex. Only about 10 percent have never had an orgasm, and about 25 percent have difficulty reaching orgasm. So, it's only normal that love partners understand and accept this fact.
The woman should choose a relaxed time and place, such as over a cup of coffee, to ask what would he'd like you to do in those times when you can't reach an orgasm. Explaining that it is perfectly normal not having orgasm every time you have sex. You can tell him in a sweet manner, as to not hurt his feelings.
You both can have a nice, tranquil life, and enjoy each others company thoroughly.
You can also tell him, on the days when you do have an orgasm that you enjoyed it a lot, but you're drained out, and that if you are unable to reach one next time, for him not to worry as you had a lot of pleasure doing it with him, and that you feel very happy and contented.
by: Gerson C. Borges - Ezine Articles Platinum Author
