How to Catch and Hold On to a Love Partner
By Gerson C. Borges
My years of relationship counseling abroad have put me face to face with men and women in distress for having had countless disillusions, heart break and severe frustration. They came to me as if I were their last hope to help them to find and keep a mate.
As a matter of fact, I myself, in my younger days have been broken hearted and thought I would never be able to find someone to have and behold 'till death did us part'. I felt lonely and rejected for quite a while, thinking that the problem was definitely me.
One day I went down to the lake front looking for some peace and quiet. I sat on a big rock and just gaze out aimlessly at the water hoping for some clue to solve my problem.
After a good 5 minutes I heard this very grave voice coming from a few yards away: "Son, are you alright?" It was an old man, gray hair and a long gray beard. He was fishing (so he said) but had not caught any fish yet.
The conversation that followed changed the rest of my life forever. The kind old men acted as if he was reading my mind. He asked what was troubling me. I felt as if he were someone very experienced and worth trusting, so I poured my heart out to him.
What he told me was so unbelievably simple that I never new why I had not thought about it.
The answer consists of three combinations of attitudes and actions, that if followed carefully and consistently will more than likely solve your problem for good.
Here they are:
* Always look at the person whom you are considering as a possible future mate with a mental beauty filter lens over your eyes: at that moment you don't want to see the physical beauty of that person, but the inner beauty. Talk about things of your infancy and adolescence and ask the other about the same subject. Be honest and tell everything as it has happened. Hide nothing. If the other person acts as if there was nothing wrong with your life and he/she does the same and talks about his/her young days, than you have the first sign that you got a possible hit there. You are in level 1.
* Next you will that person about your faults. Tell of how much you hate having those faults and that you are truing very hard to improve your character and personality traits and that you are sure that if you find someone that will help you to do that than you have a great chance to improve. If your possible future mate keeps paying a high degree of attention, your chances began to increase. You are in level 1. This is a critical point. If you notice sincere approval to what you are proposing to do, and the other person shows interest in your story, then you have reached level 2 in your progression towards finding a decent mate.
* Show that you are a good person and particularly that you are seriously considering a lasting love relationship. Don't try to put the make on him/her yet. Next you talk about what you'll you love to do, such as having a decent and cozy house to have a comfortable life with your future family. If the person talking to you shows increasing interest in the conversation you your chances are increasing even more. Here is when you will let the other person do most of the talking. Your turn now to be gracious and gentle. If your date talks with enthusiasm and has kind of a spark in the eyes, means that he/she is having fun and is signaling approval. You're now in level 3. If you are the male, at this point you have condition to suggest maybe a movie, or a late dinner. If the lady accepts, congratulations! You got your foot in the door. From here on up, it is all up to you.
By: Gerson C. Borges.
