Happiness Back in Marriage - After 35 years of Trying Years Together?
By: Gerson C. Borges
Life sneaks by us at lightning speed, doesn't it? It seems as though just yesterday we were only dreaming teenagers who though that we would go on living indefinitely, but then, all of a sudden our lives changed into a more hectic and harsh reality, where we finally had to learn that we had responsibilities to be gotten and that the days of easy, worry free years were over. How sweet and soul freshening times they were, full of hope and faith in life. - This is the way it's supposed to be though: each era of our lives has a unique feature where, as evolving to it, we must learn the right way to live that specific era. If we make the right amount of effort we'll do just fine; I am here to try to pass on to you what has to be done.
I will attain to describe what I found out has to be done after we emerge into the years after age 20, as the great majority of our readers are past that time already. To start on the right foot you must not start smoking and if you did, stop it TODAY. There is nothing to be gained by smoking. But there are a lot of things to lose. Drugs, don't even think about them. If you are an intelligent person you'll know better that drugs will cause havoc in your life and very possibly will dictate your doom as a decent human being, who should be willing and able to participate and becoming of paramount importance for your community and for society as a whole. I had do mention smoking and drugs, as they are the biggest stumbling block to young people on their quest to have a decent shot at becoming somebody. If you rid yourself of those habits, than you are a candidate for being truly healthy and happy.
Now I want to move to the next step: learning that the three most important things you must know and utilize are honesty, dependability and truthfulness. You will need them for sure, in any and all enterprises you get involved in, the most important of which being a love relationship! Here is where the fork on the road to happiness is. Without a happy and stable love relationship, you will not be truly happy and or successful. So take the right way, to a successful love affair, which is the anchor that will keep the ship of your life from being thrown onto the rocks and blown to pieces.
Your role in this world is primarily to grow and multiply in happiness. But there are rules to be followed. And part of these rules is that you have to make your love partner happy, otherwise you're not going to be happy yourself. You may think that you can have your cake and eat it too, by being married to someone and cheating on that person with someone else? Well, wake up. I'm here to tell you for a fact: you're not going to get away with that for long, as there are consequences to that and they are surely and soon to make you a very miserable and unhappy human being.
No one should think that a life at two is easy and without problems, because it isn't. Every gain we make requires a corresponding degree of effort. Love, happiness, and stability in life are no different. You must earn those rewards; they're not going to be given to you for nothing. Being an accomplished winner of that will demand a substantial amount of pain and hardships, but I am here to tell you that arriving at an old age with dignity and in a happy home, surrounded by a loving and devoted partner and all children and grand children is the most grandiose objective in life and is awfully rewarding!
My wife and I had our fair share of tears and heartbreaks along the way. After 35 years of life together, we managed to run over every single obstacle that there was - and there were many.
I'm not saying it was easy, because it wasn't. There were times when we thought that we wouldn't be able to survive all of those hardships. But we did, and I can tell you honestly, there isn't anything to compare to that type of achievement.
Now we are enjoying our lives at full blast. The kids are all grown up and well, and they are taking very good care of our grandchildren, so we have nothing to worry about. So we can use all of our spare time - and we have a lot of it - doing whatever we always dreamed of doing. And we are doing it together and happy.
You too, can do that. All it takes is some good sense and a strong will power. You certainly don't want to be one of the hundreds of thousands of lonely and unhappy people who are everywhere, bitterly regretting not having been honest, dependable and truthful to their loved ones and to themselves!
