Emotionally Unavailable Men
By Robin Cockrell
We have all experienced the emotionally unavailable man, the one that seems to be so close and so connected one minute and the next his distance feels like the Alaskan Winds. Do you analyze what makes him an emotionally unavailable man. Is it his past? Is he a commitment phobic? All though these may play a part of his hot and cold nature, chances are the answer does not lie in his past.
There are many factors that play into what makes a man commit and open up emotionally to a woman. He has to feel a burning desire for you, he has to feel in his core that you are like no other and if he does not snatch you up fast he may lose you forever. If you have not stirred those emotions in him, chances are he will stay emotionally unavailable to you. Chances are also good that he will find it somewhere else eventually and leave you with your heart laying on the floor.
Men want to be loved, they want intimacy and they want to feel adored as much as we as women do, they just go through the process very differently than we do. They like to work for things, they are providers. They value that which they work the hardest for the most. If you are constantly giving and trying to please your man, you will never awaken that burning desire for you. You want him to see you as the precious gem he had to work for, not his mother. Let him do his own laundry, clean his own house, run his own errands. Your job is not to make his life easier, but to make him want you without a doubt.
How many times have you seen a good woman who is the perfect girlfriend lose her man to a woman that you did not think was worthy? How many times has this happened to you? What do these other women have that makes these men give up a wonderful woman to be with them? They know how to stimulate and awaken the man, they know how to make him feel like a king and yet they seem to be sitting back doing nothing. What is their secret? Is your man really emotionally unavailable? Could it be that you have not awakened that fire in him or somewhere along the line you blew it out. Can you take that emotionally unavailable man and lead him to commitment?
I have lots of life experience and guide hundreds of women on the behaviors of men and what makes them commit. The answer often does not lie in the man, but in our understanding of how men view commitment and what propels them towards it. Its probably not what you think at all. For more information on men and commitment please visit my site. http://www.squidoo.com/thetruthaboutmenandcommitment
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