A Wealthy, Intelligent Man who Lost His Love and Happiness Through Sheer Stupidity
By Gerson C. Borges
I am a live witness of the downfall of a man whom I knew for many years and who is a good friend of mine. He used to live next door to my house. His wife is a sweetheart of a woman, very dependable, caring and loving person. Obviously I can't disclose their real names, so let's just call them Michael and Susan. They had everything they needed to be happy for the rest of their days, until he made the big mistake.
They were what you can call a nice couple. They loved each other dearly and they had been married for 15 years and had two daughters, Heather 8, and Melissa, 12. (not their real names either). Michael was a mechanical engineer and Susan was a freelance writer who worked from home. They had everything under control most of the time and life was wonderful for them, until their world crumbled down on them.
Michael never said anything to me about having problems at home, until much later, after it was too late to do anything about it. He confided me that he had been bored and that life at home was getting him depressed and that he had to do something about it so he wouldn't go nuts. What did he do? He started dating another woman whom, he said, brought life back into his life. - Why didn't he tell me that sooner? I could have him stop that immediately and save him and his family from disaster.
Women have that acute sixth sense and it wasn't long until Susan became very suspicious of his behavior and decided to find out what was wrong, since he kept telling her everything was alright and that there was nothing wrong. It all started going sour when she smelled a different perfume on his shirt. At that point Michael could no longer deny and he confessed that he was having an affair with another woman. Right at that minute their home life and love life disintegrated irrevocably. She was deeply hurt and she fell apart, tears running down on her face as her family life and her love life were destroyed. Michael realized immediately the immensity of the mistake he had done.
And he knew that nothing he 'd say would do them any good right at that minute.
Susan's hurt was so enormous and her pride had been damaged so, that she couldn't do anything but ask Michael to move out of the house and never come back. Michael had no words to justify his actions and agreed on moving out, which he did two days later, after finding a place to move to. He came to see me just before he moved out and told me about his affair with another woman and what had happened between him and Susan. I couldn't believe how could he have been so blind and stupid to do something like that. I told him what I thought about what he had done, and I also told him what I thought about his unforgivable stupidity.
Michael realizes how enormous his mistake and agrees on how much it was going to cost him: the loss of his wonderful wife, a woman who had loved and respected him for 15 years non stop, and who had given him two marvelous daughters and the peace, tranquility and happiness of a secure home life, the respect of his wife and their daughters and the remorse of forever suffering the excruciating moral pain of that loss. He wanted to know if there was anything at all he could do to repair that damage and regain the love of his family. I was honest when I told him that considering the circumstances of his act, it was pretty darned difficult that that would happen.
In order for that to happen, I told him, he would have to go through a complete mental recycling, and that the first thing he must do, would be have to get rid of the other woman for good and let his wife now about it on a personal letter to her, where he also would have to apologize for the mistake he done and let her know that he hated himself for that and emphasize that he always loved her and he still loves her, and only her. After that he would have to give her plenty of time to have her wounds heal, before he makes her any proposals. And he must be very patient and must not call her
or beg her for forgiveness until she is ready for it, if ever. That is a very low price he has to pay for the great pain he inflicted on her and their daughters.
If you're interested about the saga of Michael and his family, you can read my next article: Is There a Way to Recover the Love of your Wife After Having Betrayed Her?
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